Keep your friends close....

Recently I had to confront the hard truth that not everyone who hangs out with you, smiles with you or even helps you is qualified to be your friend. Even the one's you help out have the capacity to stab you square in the back.....I realised that fallen nature allows for those things to be a reality even in the church...the place of true love.

So I threw my pity party and thereafter decided to dust myself and move on, ignoring the burning sensation in my heart to hate and even slander. God teaches us the hardest of lessons and uses those who are seemingly "close" to us to push us to our greatest potential. He is truly more interested in our character and will allow us to go through the heat of the fire to purify our faith that is more valuable than gold.

My mentor always tells me.."It is only idle people who find the time to slander and gossip" So if ever again I find myself in the midst of words that seem hurtful and untrue, I will remember that it is the testing of my faith...God requires a maturity from us and if we cannot be trusted with the little things surely God cannot trust us with much. I choose to be amongst those who are counted, and who stand and obey God no matter the cost even when people do not understand and choose to judge rather than ask....I choose to be a loyal friend that my friends can truly rely on...A friend is one who walks in when the whole world walks out...

So keep your true friends close and be that friend to them that you desire them to be to you. True friends are gems, treat yours' that way....

Cicatrize

I recently came across the word Cicatrize in a spelling bee contest.....Ok I was probably bored but I pretty much learned a lot of words I can't remember. Anyway the meaning of the word is: To heal by forming a scar....It immediately impressed on my mind the many hurtful experiences we all may go through and how important it is to allow these wounds to cicatrize.

Healing is definitely not an easy thing to do....it is truly a painful experience that if not allowed to complete its process, leaves us half baked, and not able to accomplish what we should be doing.
Healing is like peeling away the many layers of hurt and pain and exposing them to a salve or balm that painfully disinfects every festering wound. It's a process that needs a beginning and end, a willingness to endure those vulnerable, exposing moments that only lead to freedom amd tears....healing is the deliberate choice to recognise the weakness of our humanity, a reaching out to a greater being, a holy untainted God who knows only too well the meaning of deep hurt and pain.

So when the tears come, let them flow, for the tides will change and not long after, you'll find a smile crack through the storm...let the tears that melt away the hardness flow, washing away every false sense of perfection allowing a perfect God to step in and mould you once again. Leave the nights be dark, let the haunting haunt...let it rage and roar...but in your heart know this one thing: It is but a season, a moment and then smile, knowing that seasons change.